Confessions of a Bridezilla

I did it and I’d do it again

Anonymous Bridezilla — Fri, 28 Jan 2011 20:33:02 +0000

I cursed my wedding planner up one side and down the other after my ceremony. I’m sure I am in the annals of her horror stories–of which I’m sure there are several because she sucked. I’ve replayed the scenario over and over in my mind, and I just don’t see me not going off on her. The decor–wrong. The altar set-up–wrong. The order of events–wrong. Distribution of florals–wrong. The cuing of the wedding music–wrong. And somehow NONE of this was her fault? Well, it was all her fault, and afterwards she tried to act like she had no accountability to me because I had paid her already. (Lesson learned: never pay for services in advance). I had something for her: took her to small claims court–and won. Didn’t get her entire fee back, but enough for me and my hubby to enjoy a nice expensive dinner out–on her!

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I did it and I’d do it again

Anonymous Bridezilla — Fri, 28 Jan 2011 20:30:45 +0000

I cursed my wedding planner up one side and down the other after my ceremony. I’m sure I am in teh annals of her horror stories–of which I’m sure there are several because she sucked. I’ve replayed the scenario over and over in my mind, and I just don’t see me not going off on her. The decor–wrong. The altar set-up–wrong. The order of events–wrong. Distribution of florals–wrong. The cuing of the wedding music–wrong. And somehow NONE of this was her fault? Well, it was all her fault, and afterwards she tried to act like she had no accountability to me because I had paid her already. (Lesson learned: never pay for services in advance). I had something for her: took her to small claims court–and won. Didn’t get her entire fee back, but enough for me and my hubby to enjoy a nice expensive dinner out–on her!

Runaway Bridesmaids

Anonymous Bridezilla — Wed, 25 Aug 2010 00:02:23 +0000

I was one of 5 bridesmaids in the summer of 2010 at a destination wedding. A huge bridezilla red flag should have been when the bride (whom I thought was a wonderful friend) turned to me after her unsatisfactory bachelorette and said ‘Please make sure you and the other girls know my wedding will be all about me.’ Ringing any warning bells for anyone?
Come the destination wedding, the bridesmaids were expected to pay for EVERYTHING of theirs from several outfits, to accommodation, to transportation, to hair and make up and nails, and plane tickets, and food, and you name it. (all demanded by the bride, oh and we paid for all of hers too). While I understand accepting to be a bridesmaid is to expect cost, however the bride lied about what was necessary to cover and sprung it on us while we were on the island..trapped. Isn’t it customary to help out your wedding party a tiny bit if you can, and if its a destination wedding?

I digress… after 4 days of ceremonies in 3 different locations around the island, 4 days of being told what to do, where to stand, when to get up, when to sleep, and even what make up you’re allowed to put on and what you’re allowed to take a photo of (only the bride, duh!) , we were all emotionally, financially, and physically exhausted. At the last ceremony, the bride and groom stand to give their thanks. Everyone was thanked except of course..the bridal party (whom she spoke about how we never made her wedding a priority). As she walks away from the podium, she exclaims ‘Oh yea, my bridesmaids’ and instead of thanking us for hard work and sacrifices, proceeds to roast her bridal party in front of 200 people we don’t know with horribly embarrassing stories. Not a thank you, or I love you was uttered. As 3 of the bridesmaids begin to cry, I comfort them and ask them to hang in there till the end of the ceremony (mostly out of respect for the mother in law, who paid for everything). At the end, when most guests have left, a bridesmaid confronted the bride about her hurt in being humiliated in front of so many people after all our hard work. The bride flipped out, yelled and screamed at her bridesmaid, and then ran off to complain her groom. At this point, the bridesmaids begin to pack up the car and refuse to attend the after party at the beach house where the bride and groom were staying (that the bridesmaids and groomsmen paid for- also unexpected cost and were covering the bride and groom). The groom ends up irate and chases that bridesmaid off into the forest and yells profanities at the rest of the bridal party. For fear of our physical safety, I gather all bridesmaids and run back to the main city to hide until we could catch our flights and head home. What a great wedding. Did I mention this was also my birthday (but wasn’t ALLOWED to mention it, it was HER day… I mean her 4TH day)

Tags: bride, bridal, friend, bride and groom, island

Colorblind

Fri, 13 Aug 2010 04:38:00 +0000

When will my wedding coordinator learn that MELON is not the same as ORANGE!!

Tags: wedding, melon, ORANGE, wedding coordinator

I am guy who is a bridezilla

Anonymous Bridezilla — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 19:15:09 +0000

My name is Brian. I have recently decided to get married. I have been so gung ho about planning my wedding my soon to be wife thinks I may be light in my toes. I tell her I am just sensitive. Maybe I need to pull back the reigns a bit and let my wife get involved. I am good it though. I think I may found a new career. Watch out JLo!

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Everyone is stealing my thunder

Anonymous Bridezilla — Fri, 16 Jul 2010 16:24:11 +0000

I was supposed to be getting married this coming March but we cannot afford it and have to wait. We have been engaged since September! Then my best friend got engaged in May and is getting married before me! Plus, another friend has been dating a guy for like three months and THEY just got engaged and will probably get married before me. A girl I can’t stand who was in my sorority is getting married this weekend. Why does everyone get to get married before me??? Oh yeah, it’s because their daddies pay for it for them. It isn’t fair.

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Tags: Everyone, yeah, thunder, THEY, September

Woman!

Anonymous Bridezilla — Mon, 12 Jul 2010 14:57:37 +0000

My mother asked me tons of questions that I could not answer because I didn’t know if I would have the funds. She cared about details I didn’t care about, so eventually I yelled, “WOMAN! DO WHAT EVER THE HECK YOU WANT!”

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scared of being a Bridezilla!

Anonymous Bridezilla — Mon, 12 Jul 2010 09:17:43 +0000

I’m getting married this January and after reading so many stories of mean and demanding brides I have tried hard to be extra nice to all involved with my wedding. I let the bridesmaids choose what style dress they want to wear, and I am insisting on paying for it too. I make a point of only talking about the wedding on one day of the week – I don’t want to bore people with wedding details all the time! I always hear friends say ‘oh that girl – she talks about her wedding non-stop’, I don’t want people to be saying that about me!

I always wanted a small non-religious wedding (my family and I are agnostic), just mine & my fiancé’s immediate family in a nice location overseas, no fuss – just the most important people in our lives. Not so for my fiancé and his family, they want a huge religious ceremony in the city that we live in. My father (being a traditional man) has insisted on paying for the wedding, which I think is a very nice gesture considering that we are not religious and have no family in this city.

After much hunting and searching for a nice church and reception venue my fiancé and I booked what we were happy with – and also fitted into my father’s generous financial offer. The venue seats 160 people – which makes for 80 guests each side. I told my future mother in law of this number, saying that 80 people each side will be fair and even. The next day she e-mails me a list of the people she wanted to invite from her side – there were 140 people on the list!
When she asked us what the cost was per head at the reception place and we told her it was $290 per person she said that it was too much, that we had to change venues, even though she isn’t paying for anything! My fiancé and I were so mad! But I didn’t want to be a bridezilla, so luckily my fiancé had a strict word to her about cutting down the guest list; he is very supportive towards me.

My future mother in law asked what colours I was thinking of having for my bridesmaids. I hadn’t really thought about it, but said I was considering black because I wouldn’t have to worry about matching colours or upsetting bridesmaids with colour tones that may not suit them. She snapped at me! She said no! It wasn’t allowed. I didn’t say anything because I was worried about seeming like a bridezilla.

All I worry about it that if she gets like this during wedding preparation, how will she be when I have children? I don’t like being bossed around, but I also don’t want to be called a bridezilla or upset anyone. Argh! Help!

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Bratty Bride

Anonymous Bridezilla — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 03:32:00 +0000

I had a cousin who got married last year. She is really uppity and frankly, a brat. I got to see how bratty being her maid of honor. She was going to have three other bridesmaids along with I. She had everything picked out to the T. Everything was going great until six months before the wedding, one of the bridesmaids found out she had cancer and started chemo. She lost all of her hair but the doctors said she was well enough to still partake in the wedding and that all was going to be fine. My cousin couldn’t handle her not have the same hairdo as the rest of the girls so she completely took this girl out of the wedding. All the rest of the bridesmaids were so peeved they dropped out of the wedding and I was left to clean up the mess.

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Tags: fine, hair, I. She, T. Everything, bride

Your a vegetarian? There’s a bowl of carrots for you

Anonymous Bridezilla — Thu, 08 Jul 2010 14:44:43 +0000

I was a bridesmaid for a total bridezilla about 5 years ago. She wanted me and all the other bridesmaids to get up at 6:00 in the morning the day of the wedding and decorate the hall where she was having her reception. We all had gone out the night before, so we refused to get up that early…we told her we’d be there at 8:00 at the earliest. She freaked out and told us that if we didn’t start doing what she asked, we could all “just go home.” She also made all of the bridesmaids wear 3 inch stiletto heals in FEBRUARY because they “matched the dresses” (which, by the way, were floor length, strapless sequin gowns where the shoes could not even be seen.) The wedding was a nightmare, and so was the reception. Two of the bridesmaids (including myself), are vegetarians and she had nothing for us to eat. When we brought it up, she said “I have carrots, didn’t you see?” She expected us to eat carrots while everyone else ate hot sandwiches, beans, and other wedding fare. Me and the maid of honor ended up leaving the wedding reception 1/2 way through and going to Perkins for dinner. It was a horrible evening. Even the bride was unhappy. When I got married a few months later, I had a simple wedding with only a few guests and no dress requirements for my one bridesmaid. It was the best day of my life! At least I learned a lesson from this awful wedding–keep it simple, and you’ll be much happier.

Tags: FEBRUARY, stiletto heals, reception, dress requirements, dresses