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scared of being a Bridezilla!

Posted on Jul 12, 2010 | 7 comments

I’m getting married this January and after reading so many stories of mean and demanding brides I have tried hard to be extra nice to all involved with my wedding. I let the bridesmaids choose what style dress they want to wear, and I am insisting on paying for it too. I make a point of only talking about the wedding on one day of the week – I don’t want to bore people with wedding details all the time! I always hear friends say ‘oh that girl – she talks about her wedding non-stop’, I don’t want people to be saying that about me!

I always wanted a small non-religious wedding (my family and I are agnostic), just mine & my fiancé’s immediate family in a nice location overseas, no fuss – just the most important people in our lives. Not so for my fiancé and his family, they want a huge religious ceremony in the city that we live in. My father (being a traditional man) has insisted on paying for the wedding, which I think is a very nice gesture considering that we are not religious and have no family in this city.

After much hunting and searching for a nice church and reception venue my fiancé and I booked what we were happy with – and also fitted into my father’s generous financial offer. The venue seats 160 people – which makes for 80 guests each side. I told my future mother in law of this number, saying that 80 people each side will be fair and even. The next day she e-mails me a list of the people she wanted to invite from her side – there were 140 people on the list!
When she asked us what the cost was per head at the reception place and we told her it was $290 per person she said that it was too much, that we had to change venues, even though she isn’t paying for anything! My fiancé and I were so mad! But I didn’t want to be a bridezilla, so luckily my fiancé had a strict word to her about cutting down the guest list; he is very supportive towards me.

My future mother in law asked what colours I was thinking of having for my bridesmaids. I hadn’t really thought about it, but said I was considering black because I wouldn’t have to worry about matching colours or upsetting bridesmaids with colour tones that may not suit them. She snapped at me! She said no! It wasn’t allowed. I didn’t say anything because I was worried about seeming like a bridezilla.

All I worry about it that if she gets like this during wedding preparation, how will she be when I have children? I don’t like being bossed around, but I also don’t want to be called a bridezilla or upset anyone. Argh! Help!

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